I used to think that I had no message to share with anyone. I’ve come to a totally different conclusion. How do I share all the messages I have within me?

When I looked at my life, I thought I had nothing of value to share. As I have grown older, I started to recognize that I had a lot to share, I just thought no one wanted to hear about it. I never dreamed I could be so wrong. Each day, I share several messages.

Who is My Audience?

I think we often forget that we have many audiences in our lives. During each day, we usually interact with many people to urge them to do something we want. It might be a co-worker who you want to get a project done. Perhaps it is a friend who is having a hard time and you want to see them make a change for the better. Of course, a child is an obvious opportunity to share a message with to inspire her to be more, care more, love herself more.

Finding the audience is often the least of your worries. Finding the right message? That can be painful in so many ways. For example, let’s go back to that little girl. Do you want her to clean her room? What message are you going to deliver?

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Finding the Right Message

The message can be harsh and cutting. That ought to not be the feeling a little girl receives, but too often, that is what you deliver. You want results and you want them now. So, how do you deliver the words and meaning she needs to hear and you really want to share with her?

When you put yourself in her shoes, what would you want to hear? I recommend selling her on cleaning her room. I used to hate sales and sales people. I’ve come to realize that everything I do in life is actually a sale. I have to sell myself on getting out of my bed. After all, it is warm and comfortable. It affords me a little peace and escape from the harsh realities of life. But, getting up allows me to accomplish something. I can learn something new. My kids have my example of being up and engaged in life. I get to write or speak to people about topics that I love. I can consume food and my bladder will eventually want to be relieved. Yep, I can sell myself on getting up.

Some of you are struggling with this idea of sales, and some of you are not sold on getting up in the morning, but no matter what, I just sold to you and you made a choice as to whether you are buying or not. If you don’t get the result you want from that little girl, was it her, or was it your lack of salesmanship? That may be a tough pill to swallow, but one that all of us can learn from if we are willing to learn the lessons that help us change.

Committed to Your Sale

If you want better relationship results, commit to your sale. People like committed people. When you are looking out for the people you are trying to help, you will figure out your approach and motivation. Does a clean room help that little girl? Yes it does, but not at all costs. Let the buyer choose, but that doesn’t mean that the choice comes without consequences, just as the choice you make in your sales approach has consequences.

It is often said that the best relationships are built on commitment. Be committed in all aspects of that relationship and you will find new levels of connection.